Elizabeth Swan

Dommes ARE sex workers. Here's why...

By Elizabeth Swan on

Recently I saw an interview with a dominatrix where she said she wasn’t a sex worker. Now you might wonder why this would bother me. If it makes you feel better about your job, call yourself whatever you like…right?

You aren’t a bartender, you are a beverage distributing officer! You aren’t a cleaner, you are chief of dirt dispatch!

But when a woman in the sex industry says that she is not a sex worker she is saying “I don’t need to do that. I’m better than that.”

And don’t give me the bullshit about the BDSM world not being anything to do with sex. The cock gets hard, money exchanges hands, and no man is paying a woman who doesn’t turn them on.

You don’t choose your dentist because you find them sexy.

You do choose your domme because you find her sexy.

Clear enough?


And before you scream “MY MISTRESS IS A GODDESS!” save it. I’ve heard it before. You may want to distance yourself from the men who visit walk ups and go curb crawling, but this is not about you.

Men really shouldn’t dabble in the subject of women’s rights.

And it is a feminist issue. Women who work in the sex industry get evicted, deported, imprisoned, their money and houses confiscated, their children taken off them. Worse case scenario, we get killed.

Saying “I am not a sex worker” makes it easier for all those things to happen because it shows we are not united. The “I’m all right Jack” approach. If I say it isn’t about sex and therefore I am not a sex worker the cops will never come for ME!

When you try to distance yourself from other women workers, when you place yourself at the top of the whorearchy tree, what you are saying to society is that the ones at the bottom are less worthy. Disposable.

So society sees us as such and gives not a fuck when they read about a brothel raid or a hooker being murdered.

Stop it.

We should all be campaigning for sex workers rights because the louder we are and the more united we are, the more chance we have of improving things. At present in the UK, full service sex workers have a choice between working together and getting a police record, or working alone and being more vulnerable to being murdered.

As a woman we shouldn’t be standing for that, right?

So swallow your bullshit pride and judgement and say proudly with me.

“I AM A SEX WORKER”



Elizabeth Swan